Not a lot to update, but I know some of you have been asking and I don't want to keep leaving you in the dark :)
We received our adoption contract on January 15 and were asked to mail it back, signed and notarized within two weeks. We, of course we're super excited and got it done much faster than that.
The genetic family also had a portion to sign and notarize so we were just waiting on them, figuring it would take about two weeks.
Two weeks come and go and we're thinking, OK, not a problem.
Three weeks come and go, we're thinking....hmmm that's weird. So I emailed our agency. She said she'd email them that day.
Four weeks come and go... now we're getting worried. I emailed our agency again and braved the question that had been at the back of my mind... "do you think they're getting cold feet?"
Two more days pass and I don't hear anything. Now that question is no longer at the back of my mind, it's full blown at the front. I'm starting to process the idea of entering the matching phase again and saying goodbye to the 8 little embryos I had come to love.
Some people we're mad/frustrated/disappointed on behalf of us. "how could they change their minds??" people would ask. And I really appreciate the care that was shown.
But I can genuinely say that I understood how the genetic family might be feeling. (Again we didn't know anything for sure, we were just SPECULATING. All we knew for sure was that they hadn't sent their contract in yet - our minds were just going to the worst).
Placing your embryos for an adoption is a REALLY big deal. When you have walked through infertility for years and finally get healthy embryos - you're thrilled that you finally have the opportunity to have children. You get pregnant with two healthy children and feel like you're finally at the end of your journey in infertility. You never dreamed of having an "excess" in those dark days of fear and uncertainty. So maybe, eventually, the idea of placing those extra embryos for adoption sounds like a good idea when you're done building your family - but then actually signing them away for good, forever - that's weighty stuff. So although I was starting to get disappointed, I can empathize with that potential fear.
But finally, on February 11 we heard back from our agency. Apparently there was a miscommunication with the genetic family. They didn't realize that the contract was in the email they'd received in January and had deleted it, waiting for the contract to be sent to them. They were apologetic and said they'd take care of it ASAP.
Whew! We were so relieved.
And officially, in the afternoon on Friday, February 20th our agency received the genetic family's contract and our 8 little snowflakes are OFFICIALLY in our name.
We are so excited to have completed this step of the process! Our agency is now coordinating with the clinic where our embies are frozen to have them sent to our clinic in Pasadena. We're also making our FINAL, albeit hefty, payment to the agency!
Once our clinic has received the embryos we can start the meds. At this point we're looking at a late March transfer. We ask for your continued prayers that the embryos would ship safely, that my body would respond to the meds, that the embryos would thaw safely, and for a successful transfer!
More updates to come as we get more info!
(photo from a super hero dress up night at church. I realized I've accumulated quite a bit of snowflake apparel and figured it made sense to be "Snowflake Girl")
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