Hi Everyone,
Well, we haven’t updated
the blog in quite awhile because…well…there haven’t been any updates for the
blog. After our first Frozen (Adopted)
Embryo Transfer didn’t work, and our three little ‘embies’ went to heaven, the
Lord made it clear that we were to take some time off and re-group. Our Doctor had a successful heart surgery, we
were able to visit Walt Disney World (by the Lord’s provision!), and another
super busy summer came and went. So now,
here we are, just beginning to prepare for our second attempt at an
F(A)ET. Here are a few things on our
hearts:
Have you ever heard that definition of Insanity that goes something like: “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results”?
Have you ever heard that definition of Insanity that goes something like: “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results”?
(Sometimes attributed to Albert
Einstein. But then again, “The problem
with internet quotes is that you can’t always depend on their accuracy.” –
Abraham Lincoln)
Anyways, Gabby and I are feeling a little like that. Not like Abraham Lincoln, mind you, but that we’re about to do the same long, tiresome, expensive, emotionally draining process in hopes of different results. Now, I use the word ‘hope’ a little differently this time around. For our first transfer, we had lots of good innocent hope. I mean, we had never had a failed F(A)ET in our lives, so why shouldn’t we be hopeful that it would work? We had so many people praying for us from all over! God answers prayer, right? Well, our transfer did not result in a viable pregnancy (although at least for some period of time, there were 2 living embryos in Gabby's womb). Therefore, this time around, frankly it's harder to be hopeful that we’re going to get pregnant. I mean, we’re pretty much doing the same exact thing (although we’re adding one additional hormone called Lupron. It's a shot that Gabby gives herself in the stomach every night for a couple weeks), so it’s hard to think we’ll get a different result. But here’s the thing, friends. More and more, God is focusing us on the point of this whole endeavor:
...and the point isn't necessarily to get pregnant.
What?! I know, I know. Track with me. The point of this whole endeavor is this: to glorify God. All things are from Him, through Him, and to Him (Rom 11:36), so EVERYTHING should be about His glory. So while it’s a little harder to be hopeful about actually getting pregnant this time around, (which is still something we’re praying for and asking you to pray for) we’re 100% hopeful (sure) that this is all for God’s glory. No matter what happens. He’s already been glorified so much in everything that we've experienced. We've even entertained the thought that us not getting pregnant might end up bringing Him the most glory, and we're preparing our hearts to be content with that. At the very least, we know that was the case for the first attempt!
With that being said, we are still trying to be hopeful this time around. I mean, we don’t want to approach this next attempt as if Eeyore got married to a nice girl donkey, we’ll call her MarEeyore, and then they experienced infertility, only to learn about Embryo Adoption and get matched with a nice set of donkey embryos, and had an attempt that did not result in pregnancy, only to try again, but Eeyore had the mindset, “Well, it’s probably not going to work anyway.” By no means! We do want to approach this 2nd try with hope! (Gabby wanted to include this picture of her and Eeyore from Walt Disney World at this part in the story)
Anyways, Gabby and I are feeling a little like that. Not like Abraham Lincoln, mind you, but that we’re about to do the same long, tiresome, expensive, emotionally draining process in hopes of different results. Now, I use the word ‘hope’ a little differently this time around. For our first transfer, we had lots of good innocent hope. I mean, we had never had a failed F(A)ET in our lives, so why shouldn’t we be hopeful that it would work? We had so many people praying for us from all over! God answers prayer, right? Well, our transfer did not result in a viable pregnancy (although at least for some period of time, there were 2 living embryos in Gabby's womb). Therefore, this time around, frankly it's harder to be hopeful that we’re going to get pregnant. I mean, we’re pretty much doing the same exact thing (although we’re adding one additional hormone called Lupron. It's a shot that Gabby gives herself in the stomach every night for a couple weeks), so it’s hard to think we’ll get a different result. But here’s the thing, friends. More and more, God is focusing us on the point of this whole endeavor:
...and the point isn't necessarily to get pregnant.
What?! I know, I know. Track with me. The point of this whole endeavor is this: to glorify God. All things are from Him, through Him, and to Him (Rom 11:36), so EVERYTHING should be about His glory. So while it’s a little harder to be hopeful about actually getting pregnant this time around, (which is still something we’re praying for and asking you to pray for) we’re 100% hopeful (sure) that this is all for God’s glory. No matter what happens. He’s already been glorified so much in everything that we've experienced. We've even entertained the thought that us not getting pregnant might end up bringing Him the most glory, and we're preparing our hearts to be content with that. At the very least, we know that was the case for the first attempt!
With that being said, we are still trying to be hopeful this time around. I mean, we don’t want to approach this next attempt as if Eeyore got married to a nice girl donkey, we’ll call her MarEeyore, and then they experienced infertility, only to learn about Embryo Adoption and get matched with a nice set of donkey embryos, and had an attempt that did not result in pregnancy, only to try again, but Eeyore had the mindset, “Well, it’s probably not going to work anyway.” By no means! We do want to approach this 2nd try with hope! (Gabby wanted to include this picture of her and Eeyore from Walt Disney World at this part in the story)
Ok, I promise this next thing relates: a few days ago, I learned it was the 10th anniversary of one of my favorite records, “Vhiessu,” by one of my favorite bands, Thrice. One of the songs on that record is called “Hold Fast Hope,” and it’s about Jonah. This record and song came back to my mind right around the time we were starting everything for this 2nd attempt. And I got to thinking, you know who literally was in the ‘depths’ of despair? Jonah! After his disobedience to God, he found himself in a “great storm on the sea so that the ship was about to break up.” Then, when God ordains that the lot was cast to Jonah (he still hadn't confessed at this point), He finally “mans ups" a bit and tells them to cast him into the sea. Instead of dying, as you'd expect during a “great storm,” God appoints a “great fish” to swallow Jonah, and Jonah is stuck in the stomach of this fish three days and three nights. Ok, I don’t know about you, but if all of this were happening to me, I would expect to die. Think about it: huge storm, ship about to go down: I’m going to drown. They’re throwing me overboard into the sea and I JUST GOT SWALLOWED BY A SEA CREATURE.. YEAH, I’M GOING TO BE EATEN. And yet, at some point in all of this, Jonah truly “mans up” and prays these words:
I called out of my distress to the LORD, And He answered me. I cried for help from the depth of Sheol; You
heard my voice. For You had cast me into
the deep, into the heart of the seas, and the current engulfed me. All Your breakers and billows passed over
me. So I said, ‘I have been expelled
from Your sight. Nevertheless I will
look again toward Your holy temple.’
Water encompassed me to the point of death. The great deep engulfed me, weeds were
wrapped around my head. I descended to
the roots of the mountains. The earth
with its bars was around me forever, but You have brought up my life from the
pit, O LORD my God. While I was fainting
away, I remembered the LORD, and my prayer came to You, into Your holy
temple. Those who regard vain idols forsake
their faithfulness, but I will sacrifice to You with the voice of
thanksgiving. That which I have vowed I
will pay. Salvation is from the LORD.
Finally, here’s another reminder. Gabby and I don’t know the will of God in all of this, and neither do you, our friends and family. So we invite you to pray and to hope with us that we’d get pregnant! AND, even though some people are trying to ‘think positive’ and ‘trust’ and ‘be kind’, sometimes it feels a little weird when we hear people say, “Oh, I just KNOW you’re going to get pregnant.” Cause really, unless you’ve had some divine revelation from the Lord, you don’t know. We don’t know, either. That’s ok. We DO know that God is glorified in all of this, so we invite you to start sending those prayers to the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob!
If you’ve read this far, or skipped down below, our current timeline has us doing the actual transfer on or around November 19 or 20. We really do covet your prayers for this, both that we’d get pregnant, but more importantly that God would be glorified.
I’ll wrap up this post with another song lyric from one of our most favorite bands as of late, Colony House. (featuring the sons of the ever-popular Steven Curtis Chapman: Caleb and Will Franklin Chapman)
“I’ve tried. I’ve
failed. I thought I gave my all, now it’s hard to tell.
Is this the end of this dream I lost, or just an
introduction to how much it may cost?
Oh, it seems so complicated, It feels like hope has faded.
When I know it’s just a way that we grow, I cannot control.
I’m still waiting for my time to come.”
- “Waiting for My Time to Come” by Colony House
